“Be the change you want to see in the world” isn’t just a catchphrase for Kelsey O’Regan, the creator of BIFL.
Back in 2016, they had a pretty craptastic year as a queer TV fan. After losing some friends and suffering through the TV devastation that started roughly around when Lexa died on The 100, and then we had the Pulse shooting (and let’s not even touch politics), Kelsey had also come out as bisexual to their parents (non-binary, queer, and asexual came later).
So Kelsey did what people are always telling us to do. They sat down and wrote. And they wrote and wrote until these quirky, funny people in their head became more than just ideas. Jill was bisexual, like Kelsey identified at the time. Sarah was non-binary and their best friend ace. Suddenly the people Kelsey all wanted to see in the world were fully fleshed characters, ready for action.
The act of writing meant Kelsey got to tell the story they wanted. That we wanted! A story about people who were real, who existed, and was far beyond what we might expect from representation on any network.
Kelsey made BIFL and shared it with us all.
Most of is think that BIFL means “Buy it for life.” While Kelsey and the crew are tight-lipped on the meaning (more than Matthew Mercer is about who’s on the Tal’dorei Council), my take away is that BIFL means something that isn’t disposable.
We’ve all spent years dealing with the subtle pain of being ignored on TV. We were disposable. We were hit by cars, given a special episode and never seen again, we wander off into parking lots, we’re written out, and of course… we’re killed. And the people who make those shows say over and over “Anyone can die!” as a reason, but they’re not doing the other side. That is, we’re not getting the happy stories to counteract the bad.
That isn’t what BIFL is. BIFL is the happy story. Sure, it’s about love and how dumb we all are with our lives and the pain of being a human… but the thing is, everyone is a human! They are fully fleshed, 100% non-disposable humans. The story isn’t easy, but it’s real and it feels good to have it just like we have a billion stories about cis, straight, people having complicated lives.
BIFL Needs You!
But this post isn’t just a love letter to Kelsey for doing what the universe needed. It’s a letter to ask you to chip in and help BIFL out. BIFL is working on season two.
That’s right. BIFL needs you to help with season two! The Kickstarter isn’t there yet, so we need your help to fund the second season.
Why? Well. Let me let Kelsey tell you:
We need this show.